Viewpoint off Albatross Avenue in Kitimat B.C. (Jacob Lubberts photo)

Viewpoint off Albatross Avenue in Kitimat B.C. (Jacob Lubberts photo)

Column: Destiny vs. Direction

“Life constantly changes and you have to keep pushing through”

Hello all, I wanted to tap into something a little more personal. These last few weeks I’ve been riding an emotional rollercoaster constantly trying to reestablish my sense of direction. I’ve always felt like there are certain milestones in my life that are necessary for me to experience so I can grow, but sometimes it amazes me how quickly I can lose that connection to those breakthroughs.

I kept getting stuck and asking myself why I haven’t moved forward? Why am I stuck in this same spot hoping that the next day will be different? It was here I realized a big difference between destiny and direction. My whole life I’ve felt ‘destined’ to do great things but never actually knew what those great things were. My direction was all over the map, constantly looking for a shortcut to success without putting the work in.

So this is a little something I wrote as a reminder for myself to stay on track and when the going gets tough to keep on pushing.

Destiny, what is it? Is it something that’s set up for you where you can follow the yellow brick road down to your dreams or aspirations? Or is it just one big phoney word that people slap in front of things when they finally get what they want?

To me, it seems like it’s just one glittered-up word that people use to keep themselves on track.

The problem with destiny is that people think things should just be handed to them because family or friends say so, or personal goals are aligned with the thoughts they have. My problem with this fluffed-up word is that people never talk about how hard you have to work towards something if you feel ‘destined’ to accomplish it.

Moving into a career path that once was fulfilled by my grandfather, I constantly get the “you were destined to be like your grandfather”, yet, nobody understands how much effort I have to put in just to scratch the surface of what he’s accomplished; years of schooling, constant editing, late nights alone contemplating existential thoughts about how life feels so undetermined. I feel like I could wake up tomorrow and everything could change at the drop of a hat.

However, direction, now that is something I believe in.

Direction doesn’t have that feeling of sunshine and rainbows, because all you see is a path; it’s not laid out for you like the Wizard of Oz’s yellow brick road but it something. It gives you the chance to look at things in front of you and decide if you want to follow the path or not.

Direction also gives you the chance to weigh out the pros and cons before committing to something. It allows you to keep your head on straight while constantly checking your surroundings making sure you’re staying on the path. I’m not saying direction is the answer to all aspirations because there’s more to it than that, but I think it’s better to keep that sense of constant movement towards your goals instead of expecting the goals to be destined for you.

Life constantly changes and you have to keep pushing through. That’s why it’s important to keep your head up and always look where you’re going. Who knows, maybe you’re closer than you think.

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